Even for those claiming emotional detachment from sex, how much of sex is physical and how much is an emotional connection, being close to someone? Todays topic of conversation is when someone sleeps with you, but is uncomfortable kissing you good-bye. The latter feels like affection tied pretty tightly to emotional attachment and connection. Oppose that to making out for instance, which seems more casually accepted as fair unattached physical interaction, depending on what circles you swim in. I’ve met many who pride themselves on saying that they wouldn’t sleep with someone they didn’t have feelings for or were dating, but have no issue making out with whomever. That line feels entirely self-drawn, but it’s completely affected by the social norms of that persons social identity.

I’ll be manipulative and ask, in a world where people “disaggregate, slice up, and repackage their emotional and physical needs” how much of this line drawing is getting our physical needs satisfied without having to face the responsibility of the emotional consequences of our actions? To oversimplify to make a point, “it was just making out, it wasn’t serious.”