I’ve been talking about this a bit lately, which is always a sign that I’m figuring something out. This story is much better in person, by the way. A friend didn’t realize that I had anything to do with the BMF when I asked him to mention it in a blog post. He had ignored the whole thing because someone he didn’t like mentioned it to him first. I pointed out the two posts I made, first asking for help and then reminding all that the event was upon us. Further, from the post asking for help, you’d probably believe how few people offered. Let’s just say that none of the people who think they are cool did, and a couple people who probably struggle with where they fit in, did.

So the point? It just reiterates to me that my friends that are building cool shit with me are worth my time, my friends that talk to me about their feelings and life are worth my time, and my friends that go and explore the world with me are worth my time. And it comes back to Ben ten years ago at PC Tech telling me he wished he spent less time partying and more time learning about computers.

The same lesson then applies today, you have to actively choose to be vulnerable to your feelings, new challenges and worthwhile people. Otherwise you’re just just going from one shallow relationship to the next, blaming everything and everyone but yourself for something great not having been built in the process. You can only take more than you give, and run for so long.