Since I decided I need to chill with the dating a month ago, I’ve still poked around okcupid. That’s made a couple things clear. While there’s still a feeling inside me desiring to meet someone special and live happily ever after and all that, I actually use okcupid as a venue to seek out conversation more than anything else.
Why? I have enough friends I figure, why not converse with them? I poke for okcupid profiles that have a sentance that sparks some though in my head, then send that message. It’s not pure I suppose, I still only message cute girls. It seems to be something like:
- search for profiles of single girls in a general age range with photos
- scan photos for subtleties that I’m attracted to
- read profile for something interesting
- think about it and write a response.
It’s not making small talk in an aim to date someone, especially since I feel like I need to talk and think more than date right now, it’s just interesting conversation.
Where am I taking this? What am I looking for? Why do I have to search out conversation from strangers?