Finished Love and Limerance. What I circled in the last chapter:

Limerance is not the product of human decision: It is something that happens to us. Its intrusive congnitive components, the obsessional quality that may feel voluntary at the moment but that defies control seem to be the aspect of limerance in which it differs most from other states.

I hope that it may be possible for limerants to cease that self-hatred that sometimes comes from being in the grip of so uncontrollable a force.

At the time, the diary was the only companion to whom he could confide the feelings he most wished to express.

Perhaps the best cure you can administer to yourself is to remove all contact and all possibility of contact between yourself and your unresponsive [limerant object].

What to do if your [limerant object] becomes limerant about someone else[:] Weep. Sympathize. Feel terrible. But recognize that limerance is basically involuntary.

“I love you.”
“Have you read Tennov’s book?”
“No.”
“Let me lent you mine.”

But those in the throes of limerance did not find that their analyses diminished their passion. What did happen was some relief of shame and guilt. Although they remained limerent, they no longer felt abnormal.

What can be done about it should you find yourself in the role of nonlimerent [limerent object]? Limerence has only one answer: Do whatever is necessary to eliminate any trace of hope.

Nonlimerants don’t know about that. They don’t know how you can’t control your own thought.

And so it goes.